Tom Dougall from Toy, photographed by Hedi Slimane.
I watched YFIP being built. At the time, I did think it was a good idea to have this stuff in one place for those interested. I’ve since changed my stance for reasons I’ll get into below.
Essentially. YFIP is a ‘receipts’ blog run by a white person targeted at specific celebs only. Instead of doing actual research, the mod called for receipts on certain celebs. When people tried submitting other celebs, presumably celebs the mod or SJ community favored, the mod delayed the posting of it or just ignored the submission entirely.
Early submissions are the result of the mod and volunteers crawling through years of interviews for days. So, if you’re a fan of those people, good job. All you see listed is literally everything they could find over 100s of interviews and appearances.
They do NOT fact check. Any link is welcome, whether it’s another Tumblr, a Wordpress blog or a tabloid. Many posts have incredibly bad sources for over half of the listed receipts, including John Green, Benedict Cumberbatch and Justin Timberlake, and good sources cannot be found. The mod also added incorrect commentary to some of the posts (this is a particular issue with celebs from outside the US) and removes necessary context.
The John Green Incident
As you may have noticed, the blog has gone pretty dormant despite the original mod’s continued personal blog use. This appears to be due to the John Green incident, which is a wonderful illustration of horrendous sources.
The original YFIP post for John Green contained ‘May have sexually assaulted a fan’ as a link. The link in question went to a screenshot of an anon ask that accused John Green of unwelcome touching on someone’s Tumblr. The fallout from using such a garbage source for such a serious allegation all but ended the blog.
Simply put, I cannot take anyone who uses this blog as proof of anything seriously. Two minutes of clicking the links will tell you the sources are shit. As for my changed stance, I realized YFIP was elevating things like offensive comments to the same level as hate crimes and domestic violence by its very format, and is operating as a witch hunt as opposed to a true resource.
John Green referencing the assault allegation here:
Someone linked me to this blog twice during that whole TIME 100 incident yesterday with Benedict Cumberbatch and Laverne Fox, showing it as examples of why he (Cumberbatch, I’m not misgendering Fox) and Jennifer Lawrence aren’t good people.
I knew it was a shady blog at the least, but I wasn’t aware it was this bad. Thanks for the info.
"You were relentless. You stabbed. You stabbed. You stabbed. You stabbed. You stabbed until he was dead," Jackson County Circuit Judge John McBain said.
Like the Warrior Women of Olde (Whom We Will Provide Historical Evidence for Once We Find It), Camia Gamet struck down her penis wielding cishetmale boyfriend.
He had it coming, of course.
You know what, fuck it. I can’t even keep this up. She had a history of beating the shit out of her boyfriend until she finally killed him, at one point repeatedly assaulting him with a fucking hammer. Nobody intervened. Nobody helped. There was no shelter he could go to. He cried for help while she repeatedly stabbed him to death.
***And if we had gender-neutral laws and equal-access shelters, this would not have happened.*** This is one of thousands, tens of thousands of deaths that could be prevented. This blood is on the hands of feminist lobbyists and feminist policymakers. Tens of thousands of names like this, stories like this. There is a reason that this is important, there is a price of human lives until we get real equality, actual equality, and not the sham that feminism has been peddling.
(Asterisks and bold emphasis in the first sentence of the last paragraph added by me.)
I volunteer at a “family shelter” that until recently was exclusively reserved for women and children. The men’s shelter in our area received less than half of the public funding that ours does and eventually it was closed all together, leaving men with children no local options.
I saw men, literally battered and bloody, turned away. Sure, the center offered to keep their kids though… 'No, it's cool man. We'll take your kids and put them into the CPS system. You can figure out how to jump through all those hoops to get them back later. Go on back to that home where your wife poured scalding grease down your back and wait, ok? Everything will seem different in the morning.'
Sure, there are “men’s shelters” but those places are primarily used by addicted or mentally ill indigents and the services provided there are poorly suited to men suffering abuse or to children. Those places simply weren’t designed to meet those needs. They’re overcrowded, poorly funded and poorly managed, and often, the men we saw who went to those places were robbed, beaten and abused just badly as they were in the homes they were trying to escape.
Very recently though, our shelter opened a men’s wing. Since then every bed has been full, every single night. EVERY BED. EVERY NIGHT. We’ve already doubled legal and psychological support staff and there’s still more help needed. And more and more men keep coming.
To be clear, ours is a crisis center. In order to qualify for residence there, one must be a guardian to at least one child, and there has to be physical abuse that has been documented by doctors AND police. These aren’t lazy or drama queening dudes who just want someplace to crash because they’ve been fighting with their partners. These are men who are being battered and their children harmed and who have absolutely no place left to run.
If you think that women are incapable of abusing men as profoundly as men abuse women…I can introduce you to some people who will change your mind. Like the guy who came in with glass in his scalp and cheek from where his wife ground a broken drinking glass into his face - for the second time. Or the one who was drugged to sleep and then raped with a zucchini by his girlfriend, who filmed the entire thing and shared it with her friends. Or the one who had his knee broken by a baseball bat when he came home and told his girlfriend he’d been fired. Or the one who set on fire because his wife thought he was cheating on him. Yeeahh, these guys should just man up and fight back right? Or maybe they deserved it somehow? (Pardon me while I puke.)
Regardless of what you think about the patriarchy, the domestic abuse suffered by men is real, and there is a very real deficit in social support resources for men who suffer that abuse.
I honestly think that the title is a bit unfair, as no one in their right minds would condone this type of murder. I do, agree, however, that feminists do not pay enough attention to these cases.
Christ I hate this
Yeah. Let’s ignore how girls bullying me for believing I was a lesbian, girls didn’t want to come near me because they thought I was gay, girls accessorizing gay men, fetishizing gay men, taking pictures of two men (even underage boys) without permission, female teachers outing their gay students to their parents, and someone I deeply care about is nowdealing with her homophobic mother and threatening to keep her away from her girlfriend along with the numerous parents kicking and disowning their children or abusing them just for being gay. But go on saying only straight men are homophobic, while cherry picking and being disrespectful to the LGBT+ community just to further your anti male agenda.
FUCK. THIS. MEANING.
I unfollowed so many people because of this garbage. If you honestly believe this, you’re selfish as hell.
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It’s a metaphor. You’re a metaphor. I’m a metaphor. Your keybord is a metaphor. Everything is a metaphor. The universe is turning into one giant metaphor on a molecular scale. Run. It’s too late.
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